Building a long lasting relationship requires alot,relationship that lasts requires sacrifice it involves partners embedding themselves in each other’s brain.
1. Always remember to keep up with the first year
As time goes on, we tend to feel lazy towards our relationship. We all start to loose our patience, discard our gentleness, being less thoughtful, and nevertheless misunderstanding and the general effort we once geared towards our partner. Its always important we think back to the first year of our relationship and put down all the lovely moments and things we used to do for our partner. Then start doing them all over again.
2. Don’t Assume- Ask
Sometimes, in a relationship we assume that our partner already know us so well that we don’t need to request for what we want. It’s always bad when we make this assumptions. Expectations are easily set in relationships after a long term and can also get deflated like a flash.When expectations are not met questions are being raised about the viability of the connection between partners.Always have it at the back of your mind to always ask for what you want when in a relationship. Because this goes a long way in spicing up the relationship.
3. Get to know your partner
Always try to figure out who your partner really is and what excites him or her. Sometimes we become preoccupied by what we think he/she wants, as opposed to tuning in to what lightens up or make your partner feel happy.Always keep it in mind that whatever makes your partner happy must not make sense to you.Sometimes you just have to go on and do it.
4. Don’t always ask “how was your day.”
In relationships people on daily basis tend to check the whereabouts of their partners. We are always tempted with this very question, “How was your day?” Which simultaneously yields a boring answer such as, “Fine, how was yours?” This does nothing to improve the connection.Always try to be innovative and lively.Try asking questions like “What made you smile today?” or “What was the most challenging part of your day?”you will all get nice answers that will lighten up your mood.
5. Create weekly ritual to check in with one another.
This could either be short or long but it starts with asking each other the things that worked and didn’t work about the previous week and what can be done to improve things this coming week.This can be used as a great avenue to get on the same track with your schedules, plan a date night and talk about what your future expectations in the relationship.
6. Keeping it sexy is good buisness.
Recent research carried out on relationships shows that by increasing the behaviors you each find sexy and limiting those that aren’t tends to make a relationship to last longer.Being sexy doesn’t necessary mean in the bedroom. but can be what excites us about our partner in our day-to-day lives.it can be helping each other out with house chores. farting in the presence of your partner.throwing a surprise birthday party for your partner,hugging or kissing in public places,having sex at weird places.
7. Creativity kills it all
Break out of the normal routine and try out something new and special.Always try doing things that leaves your partners in astonishment.Surprises is a very good relationship tool, it increases the connectivity between partners.you can decide to abandon the missionary sex positions and surprise your partner with thrilling sex positions.you can decorate the house for dinner making it a memorable one.
8. Always be in the mood.
Sex is the most vital components of a romantic relationship.The kissing,foreplay,touches,and the penetration are very important aspects of romance.According to medical practitioners it’s often rare for both the male and female to be in the mood at the same time.This should not pave way for resentment,or trying to decline advances of your partner.
9. Always take mental vacation everyday
We must try as hard as possible not to allow life and work distractions to become paramount in our minds and leaves us with little time or energy for our partner.We should always practice the art of “Wearing the Relationship Hat.” This means not allowing other things you engage yourself interfering with your relationship.Always try not be absent-minded when you are in a relationship.
10.Endeavour to take “fight breaks” when you need them.
Before you and your partner hit the point of no return.It’s always advisable you take a break, this gives you both enough time to rethink your decisions and come out with rigid conclusion.